How to make that New Year's Resolution Stick!
So.. Have you made your New Year’s resolution???? New Year.
New You! Right?
So many of us make New Year’s resolutions that involve living a
healthier lifestyle/eating better/losing weight etc., but how many of us
actually achieve our goals???
We all know what we WANT to achieve in the New Year, but how can we
make this year THE YEAR. How can we make
sure we actually stick to the resolution this time and why is achieving that
goal so hard???
If you want to make sure you achieve your goals this year, read
on….. There are some things you need to think about!
Making a change is
HARD. Why is it so hard?
Have a good think about the
behaviour you are trying to change, for example, eating habits, smoking, not exercising
regularly. Why is this behaviour the way
it is in your life??? Does it serve a
purpose? Is it a consequence of another
behaviour that you have? Because, if you
think about the causes of these behaviours, it makes sense that they are
difficult to change, unless you first try to change their cause.
For example: You binge eat as a stress release
mechanism. If you attempt to go straight
on a strict diet, but do not address the cause of your binge eating, you are
destined to fail, because you have just given up your stress release/coping
mechanism. The stress is still
there. What are you going to do to cope
without binge eating??? To be
successful in reaching your goal of eating better, you need to first work on
the cause of your stress so you will have less need for your coping mechanism
and also work at developing new and different coping strategies to prevent you
falling back into old habits when stressful situations do arise.
Example 2: You have trouble fitting in exercise because
you work excessive hours; have no-body to watch the kids to allow time for
exercise, or both! If you promise
yourself you are going to fit in exercise ON TOP of your already demanding
schedule, you will last a little while, but will then probably wind up sick due
to lowered immune status from lack of rest AND exhausted. You may end up giving up your exercise
because it is more stressful and tiring than it is worth.
You know where I’m coming from.
We’ve all been there!
So… Here are the steps that I recommended in order to make LONG TERM
changes to habits.
DO NO HARM – Do not do things
excessively or spontaneously. Do not go
cold turkey without planning and assistance.
This could do more harm to your physical health and emotional health
than good.
SEEK AND REMOVE THE EXTERNAL
CAUSES – This is a big one and takes time.
As frustrating as this can be, it is better to take a long time to
affect a permanent change than do something quickly and “fail” as we like to
say. This is where you need to look at
why you have the behaviour you are wanting to change and start to work through
it. Many behaviours are deep seated and
you may need to work this through with your practitioner, be it your GP if you
have a good one, your naturopath, your personal trainer, your psychologist or
even your best friend.
Are you in a toxic relationship?
Do you hate your job?
Are you bored or under stimulated?
Do you have too much responsibility?
Are you taking on too much?
Are you always putting yourself last?
Why?
Tackle it and work on change for the better!
ATTEND TO YOUR HABIT - When you and your chosen practitioner feel
you are strong and ready to let go of your habit, formulate a plan. It is a good idea to schedule some time out,
wherever possible, to begin this change.
Changing deep seated habits can be stressful and tiring and can result
in physical symptoms, which when attempted whilst simultaneously trying to cope
with our unbalanced and stressful lives, could wind up driving you right back
to your old habit. For example, have you
ever tried giving up your one or two daily coffees??? The splitting headache is like death! The same goes for trying to give up refined
sugars or cigarettes!! The side effects
can be horrifying. Get plenty of rest,
listen to your body and surround yourself only with positive and supportive
people. Make sure you take time away
from the contributors to your habit.
Make sure you schedule regular “follow ups”
as part of your plan, in order to help keep you on track.
LET YOUR BODY DETOXIFY – If you
are able to set aside time for yourself to make this change, it is best to let
your body detoxify naturally. For
example, if you give up coffee, you may need to just sleep for days to address
the built up exhaustion you have been suppressing with your coffee intake. Giving up sugar can leave you fatigued for
the same reasons. The physical symptoms
you experience are your body undertaking the adjustment process. Let it run its course. The more deep seated your habit is, the
longer this “detoxification” process may take and the more rest/time out you
may need.
CORRECT ANY FURTHER SYMPTOMS
THAT ARISE – Often, as you start to work through and release one of your
problems/illnesses, others resurface. It
is important to take these as they arise also, in the same steps as previously
described.
EDUCATE yourself of the best
ways to maintain your new found health and prevent the recurrence of old
disease or development of new disease.
Be patient. Long-term change
takes time, but it is well worth it in the end!
Good luck with your New Year’s resolution and remember: “Life is a
Journey, Not a Destination…. Enjoy the Ride!”
Xxxx
Bec
Wehll.